Wednesday, November 09, 2005

New guy

So I started dating this new guy a couple weeks ago. I have a friend L, who has a husband J, and the new guy, R, is friends with J. The four of us (plus L&J's precious baby) have been going to lunch every Friday for probably about a year now.

I guess I should mention that I am just not in a dating place right now for some reason. It's been going on over a year...every guy I meet and go out with (and there have been some great ones), I just become uninterested in after a couple dates. I'm not quite sure if that's happening yet with R or not.

What I do know is that I've had some "standards" for the guys I have dated and R breaks like all of them. He's 10 years older than me, which is fine. But he's divorced and I always said I didn't want to date someone that was divorced. He's got two kids and I always said I didn't want someone with kids. And he never graduated college, he went, but never finished. And then, last night when we went out, I did a little experiment. I offered to pay. I know the guy is great if he refuses. Well, he didn't refuse, he let me pay. So that's about four strikes against R right now.

Oh, and after dinner last night I think he wanted to kiss me. No way buddy, you let me pay for dinner and then think you're going to get a kiss? Think again!

But here's the clencher: he doesn't want any more kids. And I do want kids. He said something when we were on the phone the other day about being done with having kids.

So now I don't know what to do. I'm just not good at the breakup thing. If it were someone I never had to see again, I would probably just stop answering his calls. But I can't do that in this situation. I don't want to bring up the kid thing because it is too early in the relationship. I might just tell him I am not wanting to date anyone at this time. Which is true.

I guess we'll see what happens.


Blogger Regina George said...

You should do what you feel is right. Never stay with a guy because of what others might say. He is just not what you are looking for. I had once did that and the longer you wait the more it hurts (for the both of you). Also, I never expect anything with men because it focuses on getting to know someone before you pass judgement (I passed up potential boyfriends because I had too high standards). My girlfriend is seeing this guy that is clearly playing around and she doesn't dump him because of what her family might say. That is wrong - they don't know all about him - she does and if the guy is not right, she needs to move on immediately instead of waste time.

P.S. My brother lives in Austin, TX!! I am jealous of the weather - it snowed here (NJ) on New Year's Eve!

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